This is Lindsay, my force of a human

I wanted to write a bit about my partner Lindsay Aranoff and why I’m so grateful we found each other. I could talk about the stuff you could discover from the internet (inaugural Global Shaper with the World Economic Forum, curator of a TEDxKids event in Canada, co-founder of a company with the CTO of Amazon), but you could find all that out yourself.

Lindsay looks for the chance to fight for the underdog and people that have less power. Sometimes that’s working to bring mobile medical care to people that don’t have it. Sometimes it’s reminding car drivers not to cut off bikers. Sometimes it’s standing up for a clerk when a customer is yelling at them. Sometimes it’s fostering dogs. A lot of the time, it’s working to make sure that everyone has access to basic human rights. 

We make a good team. Lindsay is a woman of action; I’m more of a man of planning. When I sometimes fall victim to analysis paralysis–what should we eat tonight or do this weekend?–Lindsay often just takes a leap to try something and see if it works. On the other hand, if there’s some administrative paperwork that needs to happen, that’s my time to shine. We fit together so well that early on, I said it was like the universe created us for each other. It still feels like that.

We especially love getting out into nature and hiking together. Lindsay introduced me to the Adirondack High Peaks, and I introduced her to my favorite rock in the hills of Eastern Kentucky. Getting out into nature helps us both stay grounded and we savor the ability to get into green tree tunnels. It’s fun to walk down mountain trails while we talk about what schools should really teach people besides just reading or math. Education needs an overhaul, and we talked through all the courses we would want in a curriculum–and how experiential learning would be better. What real-world life skills do you wish *you* had a chance to learn earlier?

In an emergency, Lindsay is the person you want in your corner. When a dog we were fostering had an allergic reaction, she carried it out into the street barefoot, flagged down a car (during a pandemic), and got the dog to a vet in minutes. Another time we got a flat tire at dusk in the rain on the New Jersey Turnpike. By the time I’d figured out how to get the spare tire out of the back, Lindsay had help on the way and had already scheduled an appointment to replace the tire for the next morning. 

Lindsay has also helped me recognize the dynamics of power and how to be a better, more intentional person. She regularly reminds me that the way the world works for me is not the way it works for most people, and how the world needs to work better for everyone. Where my communication is often too soft, Lindsay will speak frankly. We operate so differently, yet it’s fascinating how we invite each other to grow.

Lindsay is Canadian and this week we’re heading to Toronto, Canada with our dog Rojo. Lindsay moved to Washington, DC and supported me during a stressful job while building her own company, designing the entire interior of our rowhouse, and acclimatizing to a new city. This was during a pandemic that made our arrangement last a year longer than we expected due to COVID. All of that is code for: she’s a fierce lady that I hope some of you get to meet.

Now I’m excited to spend time with some of Lindsay’s friends, family, and favorite dogs in Toronto. I’m still decompressing after leaving my job, but please reach out if you’re in the Toronto area. We would welcome a dog walk with friends at Cherry Beach.

9 Responses to This is Lindsay, my force of a human (Leave a comment)

  1. Matt,

    Wonderful news that you and Lindsay found each other! With all that you stand for, I was wondering how the last few years in DC were going for you. Apparently, you had a great partner to get through it all. Congrats to you both! God put the hum back into your life. Programmer2020, who I have been telling you about since he was an elementary student, is now a software engineer for a software company in Spokane. He absolutely loves it and is currently assigned to building a music app with a couple coworkers. He was invited to travel to a client’s site in a Tesla and has decided that the future for him is owning a self-driving car. Lol. Thanks for sharing where life has taken you. We’re just an hour south of Canada in Idaho.

  2. Matt, this is my favorite written love letter. My favorite love letter in video form? That goes to Casey Neistat. 🙂

  3. Hi Matt, I continually impressed with how you elevate the incredible women in your life. It’s wonderful to have supportive people around you during these crazy times. I’m so blessed to have a wonderful home life too.

  4. Very happy for you Matt. So glad you found each other!

  5. Good to see you updating again, Matt. Congratulations to you and L and look forward to advice on designing the interior of a rowhouse.

  6. It’s gratifying to see someone deserving of happiness to receive it. Enjoy and have some poutine for me.

  7. Glad you found happiness again Matt 🙂 Best of luck!

  8. I am happy you found happiness again, Matt!
    We miss you all in Search Engines. You were the best!

  9. I am very happy for you Matt. Congratulations. If you guys are ever out in Vancouver give me a call. Again I’m glad to see you happy.